• You Cannot Change The Past But You Can Learn From It

    It’s hard to see the reflection in the mirror sometimes, and it’s hard to look back and see the reflection of our past self, the choices we’ve made, the way we’ve treated others, and how unaware we may have been.  It’s hard, but it’s purposeful.  The lessons we took away from those experiences made us who we are today. If we hadn’t have learned from them, we may still be…

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  • Shadow Work & Shit Talking

    We often hear “don’t take things personally, what other people say and do is a reflection of them, a projection of their insecurities, wounds, etc.” And while this is true, it doesn’t make it hurt any less when we experience it. Shadow work is something that has transformed my life. It has helped me grow my self-love exponentially. I’ve cultivated more compassion through practicing shadow work and integration of my…

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  • Abuse & Love Cannot Coexist

    *Disclaimer* This does not imply that someone who has abused you did not love you. It only means that the act of abuse is not love even though it may have been labeled as such. “I am doing this because I love you.” “I love you, but” There should not be a “but” after “I love you,” as it implies that love is conditional.  I haven’t been able to stop thinking…

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  • Trauma Bonding: The Narcissist and The Codependent

    Trauma bond as a buzz word, but what is it? It is an emotional attachment that is developed out of a repeated cycle of emotional, mental, or physical abuse, devaluation, and intermittent positive reinforcement. It is similar to Stockholm Syndrome and is a type of survival strategy. It commonly occurs in the narcissist and codependent relationship. Two sides of the same coin, the bond between the narcissist and the codependent…

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  • You Do Not Need To Punish Yourself In Order To Learn

    Most of us were raised being punished. If we did something “bad,” we were sent to time out, grounded, privileges revoked, lectured, and sometimes even shamed. ⁣ ⁣ In adulthood, we carry this pattern with us.⁣ ⁣ Anytime we do something “bad,” we punish ourselves. Whether that be through self-imposed criticism and shame, or looking to what “happens to us” as a consequence of our choices or behavior. ⁣ ⁣…

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  • You Can Manifest When You’re Depressed

    You can manifest when you’re depressed. Lately, I’ve been trying to understand manifestation on a deeper level. I’ve been discouraged because the things I’ve been trying to bring into my reality weren’t showing up how or when I wanted them to. I was reflecting on all of the major things I’ve manifested in my life, new careers, my homes over the years, relationships both platonic and romantic, and even money…

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  • The Great Dismantling

    I think we go through multiple phases in our life where everything we’ve ever known gets ripped out from under us. Either forcibly by others or the Universe, or by the own choices we make for ourselves.  Every time we break, we have to rebuild.  The death and rebirth process, much like a snake shedding its skin. We are stripped of what we knew, what we thought would always be,…

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  • The Duality of Emotions

    For the longest time, emotions were all consuming. They would swoop in and take over, leaving little to no room to breathe. I remember the days I couldn’t get out of bed, where whatever I was feeling in that moment was too overwhelming. A lot has shifted since then, but I can’t pinpoint one thing that made them easier. Taking time to make space for, sit with, and not suppress…

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  • Why I’m Calling Bullshit On Manifestation

    If you know me, you know that I’ve been preaching manifestation for the last at least 5+ years. I see the power that it holds in creating your dream life. I see the hope and confidence it brings to people. I started learning about manifestation with the law of attraction. I think the law of attraction is a lot of people’s gateway into the world of energy work and even…

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