It’s hard to see the reflection in the mirror sometimes, and it’s hard to look back and see the reflection of our past self, the choices we’ve made, the way we’ve treated others, and how unaware we may have been.
It’s hard, but it’s purposeful.
The lessons we took away from those experiences made us who we are today. If we hadn’t have learned from them, we may still be there, making the same decisions, reacting and acting the same.
To be able to recognize the degree to which self-love affects every aspect of our being is life-changing.
The saying “how we treat others is a reflection of how we feel about ourselves” is powerful beyond measure. It hits deeper and deeper the more I self-reflect. And the more I take time to recognize how I truly felt in the moment that I reacted or acted in a certain way.
With awareness, I have shifted my reactions, but at times I still have to work on forgiving my younger self.. for treating people in the way I treated myself.. and for treating myself with such a lack of love, compassion, and support.
It takes time and healing. It takes sitting with that version of yourself and loving them the way they needed at that time.
It takes recognizing that perfection is unattainable, and that we often make mistakes in life so that we can learn from them.
Accountability can exist without shame.